What is the protocal for dealing with bullies? As a mother, we all want to be that woman in The Hand That Rocks The Cradle, but we can't be stalking kids and threatening their lives. That's just in the movies. If you are doing this, please stop. We'll work together to find a new way of setting boundaries for bullies.
In 7th grade I had my own personal stalker. She was in 8th grade and carried a knife in her shoe. It was a nice touch to evoke terror, but that must've been painful walking around all day. She wore black as if she was already at my funeral.
Every day she'd find me in one of my classes and wait in the hall until I looked up to see her. She was so needy that way, always begging for my attention. Anyway, I'd look up and then she'd gesture that she was going to rip me to shreads with her hands. This was our daily ritual.
Finally, during the last week of school, she asked me to meet her outside after school. Fine. I was almost relieved that she was finally going to kick the shit out of me.
I had glasses, a headgear, and I weighed roughly 75 lbs. I wasn't going to be much of a challenge.
People were all around me, waiting for the screamfest to begin. And then, much to everyone's dismay, she walked right by me. I was going to yell, "Chickenshit!" as she walked away, but instead thanked my lucky stars I still had eyeballs in my sockets.
I learned that she had 3 children by the time she was 19 years old. You gotta love karma.
But as parents, we need to rely on more than karma. I'd suggest meeting with the principal and asking for a checklist of actions and consequences. If the school doesn't know, as in my case from 27 years ago, they can't help.
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